How to break up with a fragile person?

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on July 2, 2007 at 9:40am

hum your idea is not bad, but the thing is my work asks me to be travel a lot takes lot of my time and you're gonna laugh but the two girls are in my crew, well they are models in the same company..t.t But I'll definitely work on the behavior thing..it may work. In the end acting like a jerk is it the solution..well, this could work after all..
I might sound desperate right? ha yea i am, but still thanks for your advices. But does this action goes with the "honesty" thing..ha i'm lost. I know i should live my life from now on.
I'll try then..

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Permalink Reply by Bill Cammack on July 2, 2007 at 10:26am

Marco,

"Honesty" is out the window. As soon as you aren't willing to walk away from this girl, you're lying. You're lying to yourself. You're lying to her. You're lying to the girl you actually LIKE at this point.

The Truth is that you care about the claims-to-be-suicidal girl, and you want her to live, but you're not interested in being with her anymore. Since you're not willing to say that to her and take your chances with what she's going to do with that information, you're LYING. Period. Anything else is not the truth.

Since you're concerned about the potential consequences of telling her the truth, you have no other choice but to lie. So don't worry about what's true and what isn't or what's honest or dishonest. Your two goals are to A) have a good time, and B) avoid this girl killing herself. That's going to call for STYLE and not HONESTY.

hahaha And good luck that both girls knowing each other doesn't blow up in your face anyway! :D

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Permalink Reply by vid santoro on July 5, 2007 at 8:12am

lol... gradually lessen you're time with them. it kinda brings them down to a more ready mindset when the actual breakup comes

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Permalink Reply by Brandon Longstreth on July 6, 2007 at 11:24pm

I went through this same thing. Only, i wasn't in love with anyone else, it was just a shitty relationship and needed to end. onto advice:

she's not gonna kill herself. people who want to die are dead. they try really really hard.

she wants attention. she wants you to think about her. even if it just means worrying about her.

just break up with her. be clear and to the point about how you feel what you think should happen and act on it. you don't have to be a dick about it, but if she doesn't want to hear it you might have to tell it to her straight or be forceful.

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Permalink Reply by Marco luc on July 7, 2007 at 1:34am

Here comes the end of my probleme. I actually decided to end up with her, no matter what she said..as she is unstable, I asked a girl friend to stay with her at least the first days after we broke up..t.t
She was sick, very sick and didn't come to work the first days, but yea, she didn't try to kill herself again.
As you said, maybe it was all for having some attention..
Breaking up is never easy, of course, but I know things will get better for her soon..we've been together for 6 years, so it kind of hurt me too. But in life we should learn to be honest, just as many people said here in that forum and let it go.. I was afraid of being completely honest, but in the end it only hurts everyone.

Still I have something to say, to everyone who might be in the end of a relationship, be it boys or girls who can't let it go. Of course no one says you shouldn't fight to keep the one you love, even when you feel the other person doesn't love you anymore. But please keep in mind that if you fight for it and still can not change your lover's mind..so just let it go. Just, learn to let it go. Because you deserve more than a "body presence" but someone who really loves you.

Thank you all, and for your time ^_^.

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